Hey Guys! Welcome and thank you for stopping by my blog, FireBreathingTGirl.com
So why did I choose the name Fire Breathing T-Girl might you ask? Before I answer that question let me start off by telling you a little about myself and why I decided to start a blog.
My name is Joanna, I’m a 26 year old Latina trans-woman living in Washington, DC. I’m originally from Puerto Rico, but grew up in Florida. I’m still currently in the process of transitioning and here’s a quick background: I started hormones in October of 2012, in February of 2013 I started to live as a woman full-time, and in March I legally changed my name and gender. My biggest goals for this year in terms of my transition is to amend my Puerto Rican birth certificate which currently Puerto Rico doesn’t allow you to do so, but they haven’t met a Fire Breathing T-Girl like me who just doesn’t take no for an answer.
So why did I decide to start a blog? I recently wrote a guest blog post for the Human Rights Campaign to commemorate Transgender Day of Remembrance and I received awesome feedback. The experience of sitting down and reflecting on the process of becoming the woman I am growing into was so cathartic that I wanted to start my own blog. My upbringing was far from ideal I didn’t feel as though I had anyone to turn to, so writing was a natural escape for me. Sometime after high school after I was no longer in survival mode I let writing go. My goal through this venture is to write once a week for a year and hopefully in the process rediscover my love for writing and grow as a writer and as a person.
Fire Breathing T-Girl is a space to document my journey to womanhood and vent my likes, dislikes, frustrations, beefs and sometimes just the WTF moments of my daily life as a trans-woman. I want to facilitate an environment where other girls like me can go and know they are not alone in their struggles as trans-women. I would love to hear from girls that are contemplating transitioning and from those who are in the midst of it, as well as from girls that have already gone through the process, in addition to our supporters, allies and the men who love us. This is a space for sharing and solidarity so that we can remind each other that we are not alone. This is also a space to vent, a place to take that “woosaww” moment to keep myself from saying in my most hopped up on hormones, telemundo/telenovela, Fire-Breathing T-Girl voice “SHEEEEEE!” whenever someone uses the wrong pronoun.
With that out of the way, why did I choose the name Fire Breathing T-Girl? I understand that some of you out there may find the term “T-Girl” offensive and it is every trans-woman’s distinct right to choose how she self-identifies. For me personally, I prefer the terms; Trans, Transgender or T-Girl. I however usually prefer just to be called Joanna, Jojo or Jo. I don’t have an issue with the term “T-Girl” as I see it as a way of drawing a quick distinction between cis-gender and transgender women, an abbreviated from of trans-woman if you will and it’s not a term that has been typically utilized to oppress and demonize trans-women. Again, I understand that some of you may disagree and may find it offensive or that it cast trans-women as a novelty and for that I sincerely apologize, but I don’t intend any malice by the name or the contents of my blog.
To that point I would like to go ahead and state beforehand that since I hope to cover some sensitive topics in this blog I may in the course of writing say something that offends some of you. Before that happens let me state for the record that the purpose of this blog is not to offend anyone, nor do I claim to be a spokesperson for the whole transgender community. All I wish to do is share my journey. Hopefully in this process I will also gain insight into how you all walk in your truth with such ferocity, and I think that knowledge will help us all walk together. So please give me the benefit of the doubt when I say that, “my mission is to lift each other up in sisterhood and not to create further divisions within our community”.
Ok, so back to why I chose the name Fire Breathing T-Girl. I really wanted to send a message with the name I chose. I didn’t want it to be generic and I really wanted a name that would catch people’s attention and TRANSmit a message of empowerment that communicated to people, “Yes I am a Transgender W-O-M-A-N! Don’t get it twisted, woman! My gender is not up for debate and I don’t have to prove my womanhood to you or anyone else. We are trans-women and there is beauty in that. There is beauty in the conviction of knowing who you are despite your friends, family, chromosomes and society all telling you otherwise and we don’t have to apologize for that and I wanted a name that would convey that kind of message.
At times I will have guest contributors such as my mom, friends, boyfriend, supervisor etc. and depending on the subject matter, what’s going on in my life or just my hormonal dosage my style of writing ranges from serious, humorous, nostalgic, gloomy, livid, and motivated and a host of other emotions that I’m feeling in that moment. I’ll sometimes write about things that are currently going on in my life, at other times discuss how I feel on certain issues that plague that transgender community and other times I might write something that is more retrospective that may not be directly related to what I’m going through at the current moment. I believe remembering the past (not holding onto it) while keeping your eye on the prize is always important.
My journey to womanhood didn’t begin the day I started hormones, that’s when my transition began. My journey started many years ago and every experience whether good or bad has shaped me into the person that I am today and the woman I am growing into, There is no one way of being a woman and no one journey to womanhood this is simply my journey and I just wish to share it with you all, with that I hope you enjoy sharing in my walk.